The other day, someone asked me what my pet peeve was and immediately I answered ‘immodesty’. Immodest girls really bother me. I feel very threatened by girls whose main goal is to be sexy. They are teaching guys to appreciate girls only for their looks and not who they really are on the inside. At the same time I feel very sorry for such girls and the guys who give them attention. I was also asked once, if I could change one thing in the world what would it be. I answered that I would end immodesty. Since a lot of people don't see the relevance of modesty either in the Bible or our culture, I decided to write this post showing how modesty is very relevant to any lady who wishes to please God.
Before I continue I would like to clear up a common misconception about modesty. The word modesty is not synonymous to unattractive. Modesty is the way a woman should dress and act so as not to be sexually enticing to men. A girl can still look pretty if she dresses modest.
Modesty is not directly mentioned much in the Bible. It is only once directly mentioned in the KJV (1Timothy 2:9). But it is an important part of following God nonetheless. In the Gospel of Matthew (5:27-28 KJV) Jesus says, “Ye have heard that it was said by them of old time, Thou shalt not commit adultery: But I say unto you, That whosoever looketh on a woman to lust after her hath committed adultery with her already in his heart.”
Now, I realize that females are not always responsible if men happen to lust after them, but many times they are. But that doesn’t really matter anyway. What matters is that when girls dress immodestly they are inviting men to lust after them, which in turn causes them to commit adultery in their heart and also causes them to covet, which breaks two of the Ten Commandments.
One day a man asked Jesus which commandment was the greatest. Jesus answered: “And thou shalt love the Lord thy God with all thy heart, and with all thy soul, and with all thy mind, and with all thy strength: this is the first commandment. And the second is like, namely this, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself. There is none other commandment greater than these.” (Mark 12:30-31 KJV)
What does loving our neighbors have to do with modesty? Well, since men are tempted by images of immodest woman, how is it loving to any of them if you constantly show them those images? I shall answer myself: it’s not! It is not loving to God either, if you are constantly causing men to sin.
Immodest girls distract men from their wives and cause them to be mentally unfaithful. It is an ugly chain of reactions that immodesty has caused in out society. Provocative women distract men from worshiping God with their whole mind, which, as Jesus said, is the most important thing for Christians to do.
BarlowGirl’s song Clothes is a great song about modesty and A Return to Modesty is a very well written book about the problems immodest behavior has caused in our culture. Josh Harris’ book, Sex Is Not the Problem (Lust Is), is a great book about combating lust in general, both for guys and girls.